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(First published 9/7/2020) Life is full of opportunities to compare ourselves with others and choose to come up short. It’s funny how readily we take those opportunities. No matter what we’ve accomplished or how good at something we are, sometimes we're compelled to look at someone else who we think is doing it better, faster, or more successfully, and tell ourselves that we don't measure up. Or, more plainly, we might even say to our poor selves, "I suck." Sometimes, we have

(First published 10/7/2019) I am always preaching about making art and music and doing creative things just for the sheer joy of it. Recently, though, bullsh*t was called. Or rather, something happened that made me take a closer look at myself. Back story: I love to sing. I love singing alone or with friends, accompanied by instruments or a cappella. Of course, I sing in the shower (the acoustics are great), and I don’t even care most of the time that my downstairs neighbor

(First published 3/11/2020) In our culture, as in many cultures, we tend to see perfectionism as an enviable trait. Doesn’t it mean that we have high standards, that we’ll settle for nothing less than excellence? Well, sure. But the dark aspect of perfectionism is that it doesn’t stop there. Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect – not really. It’s not about striving for the best possible result and being gratified when we reach it. It’s really just an endless spinning on a